Proverbs 31, a note from my husband.

 “The worldly woman gives up her family and her home for herself, but the godly woman gives herself up for her family and home.” ​

     If asked to give a definition of what a good woman should be, what comes to mind? Society today will tell you that she must be independent, successful in business, trendy, attractive, and the life of the party. Monetary and personal acquisitions are the name of the game; by any means necessary. Her ability to cultivate autonomy is unmatched. Never relying on a man to provide for her needs (because he may not be able to provide for her wants), seems to be a virtue worthy of the highest honor and praise. But is this what makes a woman truly happy; all the toys and liberty she can possibly grab? God does not seem to think so…    
    Looking briefly through Proverbs 31, we are given a great foundation in some of the traits a good woman possesses, particularly in the role of a wife and mother, from God’s point of view. This is intended to be a quick overview only and it is highly recommended that you engage a deeper study of your own. Please remember ladies, you are never loved or valued any more or less depending on your ability to perform these tasks; keep in mind that this helps display the condition of the godly woman’s heart, not just her performance.
     An unending and ever expanding love and devotion to God, spiritual and practical wisdom, in addition to moral virtues are the cornerstones of this woman’s character and shows them to be in sharp contrast to those of immoral women. Society puts very little value, if any, on a godly and virtuous woman. God immediately refutes society’s view and places immeasurable value on a woman who is humble (v.30) and obedient. He says an excellent wife is extremely rare and her worth is far exceeding anything money can buy (v.10).
     She honors her husband and is careful to be responsible with the money he provides (v.11). She lives to make him happy with her impeccable loyalty (v.12). She works with her hands to make clothes for her family (vv.13,21,22) and to sell them for profit (v.24). She goes out of her way to get the best for her family, and finds the best prices (v.14). She cheerfully awakes before dawn to begin preparing food (v.15), and is not afraid of rigorous work (v.17). She is wise to invest and reinvest their money because she is very resourceful and entrepeneurial (v.16).
     She is strong and confident; always trusting in the Lord to take care of the future (v.25). Every word out of her mouth is sprinkled with kindness, and she teaches the law to her children with wisdom and mercy (v.26). She is very diligent in her use of time; never wasting it with idleness, making her a skilled manager of the home (v.27). She is not only honored by God, but her children and husband sing her praises as well (v.28).
     It is very difficult for women to ignore what society throws in their face and be loyal to God’s plan for their life instead. And it’s no wonder since these ways of life are pitted on opposing ends of the proverbial spectrum! With the help of the Holy Spirit, Christian women can enjoy true peace and happiness through the fulfillment of their God given roles and an earnest love for Him.
I pray wives are encouraged to “love their husbands, love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the Word of God will not be dishonored.” (Titus 2:4,5)
-David Lightner

About Disciple of Christ, Wife, Mommy of 5 blessings & NM Top Earner.

As a wife, homeschooling stay at home mom of 5 beautiful blessings, taxi, chef, doctor, philosopher etc, my life is full of adventures everyday. Most of the adventures lead me to find another lost piece of my identity concealed deep within my heart. I have always felt that there was more to life than just “making it through”. After 5 little ones (4 under 4 & in diapers), I lost all the pieces I had found along the way. I was left with thinking my identity was being a wife and mom. “This can’t be all there is to me!”, I reasoned. Who am I? What’s in my heart? Why do I thrive around beauty and my heart leaps for joy when experiencing something as simple as a sunset. A feeling like I am free, inside. My heart can breathe again as if it had been holding its oxygen all along. Did God make me like this, I wondered? I felt guilty for longing to let my heart be free once again. After all the picture we have of a “perfect” woman is one that is ALWAYS busy! Always volunteering, always giving of herself with never once a thought of the state of her inner being. That is why we lose our hearts. Vulnerability is not welcomed anywhere. Femininity in its purest form is frowned upon. Why? Because women are supposed to be tough! The kind of tough that is just wrong. We are trained to hide our vulnerability, along with our femininity, very early in life. The wounds we have received as little girls leave us reacting as women like that wounded little girl would: we retreat, we regress. The message we received? You can’t trust anyone! Your femininity and vulnerability is a weakness. Most of us walk through life “playing” or pretending to be someone we’re truly not. As adults, we make choices based on how we were programmed when we were young. The real us hides somewhere inside, waiting to be rescued. Like a wounded animal hiding from its master, wanting to trust and soar again, but so afraid of the uncertainty that awaits. The risk is not worth it, we think to ourselves. To be quite honest most of you have not found a safe place to be yourselves. Embarking on a quest to find the real you takes courage. God created you in His image. Adam bears the image of a warrior God. A man is supposed to tell the world, on God’s behalf, He will come through for you. Eve bears the image of a captivating God and her heart is made to show His beauty. A woman is supposed to tell the world, everything is ok. She is that calm & quiet spirit. Safety; a place of refuge and healing beauty. This is what our hearts long for; Eden. The place for which we were created. The place in our hearts we know we belong. I am just a simple girl on a quest to finding my heart. Not the way I was “shaped” by the world but the way God created me. I pray that this journey will be encouraging and uplifting to others. I am going on an adventure and invite you to come with me! I am very transparent because that is what this world needs! With all my love, Laire

Posted on January 4, 2012, in Uncategorized. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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