Proverbs 31, a note from my husband.
“The worldly woman gives up her family and her home for herself, but the godly woman gives herself up for her family and home.”
If asked to give a definition of what a good woman should be, what comes to mind? Society today will tell you that she must be independent, successful in business, trendy, attractive, and the life of the party. Monetary and personal acquisitions are the name of the game; by any means necessary. Her ability to cultivate autonomy is unmatched. Never relying on a man to provide for her needs (because he may not be able to provide for her wants), seems to be a virtue worthy of the highest honor and praise. But is this what makes a woman truly happy; all the toys and liberty she can possibly grab? God does not seem to think so…
Looking briefly through Proverbs 31, we are given a great foundation in some of the traits a good woman possesses, particularly in the role of a wife and mother, from God’s point of view. This is intended to be a quick overview only and it is highly recommended that you engage a deeper study of your own. Please remember ladies, you are never loved or valued any more or less depending on your ability to perform these tasks; keep in mind that this helps display the condition of the godly woman’s heart, not just her performance.
An unending and ever expanding love and devotion to God, spiritual and practical wisdom, in addition to moral virtues are the cornerstones of this woman’s character and shows them to be in sharp contrast to those of immoral women. Society puts very little value, if any, on a godly and virtuous woman. God immediately refutes society’s view and places immeasurable value on a woman who is humble (v.30) and obedient. He says an excellent wife is extremely rare and her worth is far exceeding anything money can buy (v.10).
She honors her husband and is careful to be responsible with the money he provides (v.11). She lives to make him happy with her impeccable loyalty (v.12). She works with her hands to make clothes for her family (vv.13,21,22) and to sell them for profit (v.24). She goes out of her way to get the best for her family, and finds the best prices (v.14). She cheerfully awakes before dawn to begin preparing food (v.15), and is not afraid of rigorous work (v.17). She is wise to invest and reinvest their money because she is very resourceful and entrepeneurial (v.16).
She is strong and confident; always trusting in the Lord to take care of the future (v.25). Every word out of her mouth is sprinkled with kindness, and she teaches the law to her children with wisdom and mercy (v.26). She is very diligent in her use of time; never wasting it with idleness, making her a skilled manager of the home (v.27). She is not only honored by God, but her children and husband sing her praises as well (v.28).
It is very difficult for women to ignore what society throws in their face and be loyal to God’s plan for their life instead. And it’s no wonder since these ways of life are pitted on opposing ends of the proverbial spectrum! With the help of the Holy Spirit, Christian women can enjoy true peace and happiness through the fulfillment of their God given roles and an earnest love for Him.
I pray wives are encouraged to “love their husbands, love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the Word of God will not be dishonored.” (Titus 2:4,5)