Expanded! I’m raising Homemakers, NOT independent women!
I am raising homemakers! I am not raising independent, I can do everything men can do, career oriented ladies ( and YES, I am talking about the modern feminist mindset that has creeped into the churches). I am raising, God-fearing, modest (not to be confused by Amish!), virtuous, HOMEMAKERS! Our girls will have the option to NOT go to college…(as you may be well aware of girls are almost expected to go to college, that is just what you do in the modern westernized culture…it’s almost a formula!) I will not harp on this issue like I will my boys.
I will not raise women who have DRIVE to be “something”, with the kind of mentality that homemaking is “nothing” or less than. I will not raise women who are career seeking INSTEAD of God pleasing. They will have the option to go to college if they so desire, but they will always know where their priorities lie and what God expects of them. This society may disagree all they want but, I am in this world NOT of this world. God created women to be the helper, her husband’s supporter, encourager and lover…to train her children at home and to LOVE her God-given role (Deut 6, Titus 2 and many more). I am raising young ladies of integrity. Teaching them by example to love and fear the Lord first and foremost. To love their future husband and to be workers at home, diligently teaching/training her children in the way’s of the Lord.
I am not raising “independent” women. I am raising women who transfer their dependency from us (her parents) to her master, the Lord. I have no interest in my girls having a career for the sake of having a “real life”. I am raising girls who do not fit in the mold this world has carved for women. I am raising women who will be committed to fulfilling the role God has outlined in His word for them. Women that want nothing more than to please the Savior. They will have the option to go to college (I will highly encourage education or ministry work)…but they are free to pursue their God given gifts so long they understand when they have a family, career is secondary. Training her own children IS her calling and priority and she must do everything possible to fulfill her call (that may mean cooking from scratch to save money, having a smaller home, only one vehicle etc).
As my girls grow up and I am able to see what spiritual gifts they possess, I will be able to discern what God has called them to. One of them can have the ability and desire to sing gospel music…I have no objection to that. What I want my girls to understand is that their PRIORITY will be their Lord, husband , children and home (in that order). What I do have a problem with is all these christian parents who are NOT imparting these values in their girls. They want to raise independent, do it yourself, feminist (without knowing) women who will eventually send her children off to daycare or school in order to pursue what she WANTS, what she was taught to from a young age.
Now, my girls may have the gift of singleness and that will be a whole other issue but the like hood of that is very small. I am raising them as the majority not the exceptions. I am raising precious homemakers, Proverbs 31 ladies…not feminists…not independent…not I can do it all type of women. God doesn’t like those types, He knows their heart…they despise the role God created for them, they dislike being told what their biblical calling is, He fully knows their heart attitude. He loves a humble, modest, fully dependent on Him, lover of her family type of woman (which is also a mindset). He called her a VIRTUOUS WOMAN.
I have no interest in teaching my girls to “go for it all” and sprinkle Jesus on top. If you are an “independent” mother, your daughters will take on after you. They are learning how to be a woman from you! WHAT exactly are you teaching them? If Christ is your all, they will see it by the way you live your life. Your choices will show this. Christ said… “If you love me, obey my commands”…He did not say “if you love me, do whatever your heart tells you to…” The heart is deceitful and desperately wicked above all…We live by faith in obedience to the Bible not by what we want to do and hope God blesses our agenda!
Are you teaching your girls that homemaking is for second class citizens? You don’t have to say those words for them to see being a homemaker as that. By your actions the message will come across. I see Christian parents allowing their daughter to cheer, dance (in very skimpy clothing!), play sports BOYS are to play…I see more girls becoming more like BOYS (The feminist agenda! Train more boys to be like girls and more girls to be boys…gender neutrality is what’s in!) We are erasing the line between a girl and a boy. Now we raise gender neutral kids. I see girls wearing the LONG basketball shorts, with the HUGE basketball shoes, a tank and the walk to go with it that says NOTHING more than I am one of the boys. Why? Why would you want your precious, feminine, beautiful and fragile ( YES wether you think so or not, your girls are VERY fragile in spirit), look, act and talk like this? Why wouldn’t you teach them to embrace their femininity & precious call to be homemakers. To be lovers of our Lord through fulfilling our call and doing what He has called EVERY SINGLE one of us to do?
EVERY single woman (except the ones with the gift of singleness) has a call to be a Titus 2 woman. That means we are to raise these precious little ones to love and embrace their God-given roles since they are young. My boys will understand their role and what is expected of them as head of their homes and providers. I tell franky (11 years old) that he will be sole provider of his home, to find what it is that God has called him to do, in order that he may be a good provider so his wife can stay home and train his children. We teach our boys that it is NOT his wife’s responsibility to go into the work field and any woman who wishes to date one of our boys and has that independent spirit….he needs to let GO! The woman he is to marry must be modest, humble, and must have a desire to fulfill her role as a homemaker and educator of her children. God forbid any of my boys bring home an immodest, independent young lady home…ohhh boy! That will not fly in our home because we are training them in what to look for and much like Dr. Voddie Baucham advocates, our boys will trust me with their hearts (as the girls will their dad) and together we will choose the girl God has for them. What qualities must a future wife possess and a degree is not even on the list. So I am training my girls to be homemakers, to look for certain qualities in a future husband (daddy will help in that arena). He must love his role as a provider and support her staying home and homeschooling the children among a laundry list of other things!
The point is that our children were created with unique talents by God, but God will never contradict His word. Men and women have defined roles in scripture within those roles God allows us to express out individuality and gifts…yet never compromising our role.
I am proud to say I am raising homemakers because that is what my God calls me to do!
Our home is a beautiful canvas for biblical hospitality, servanthood and discipleship. Our mission field is first and foremost our home…to disciple our children to fear and love the Lord, to know him intimately and to want to live for Him.
Note: This article addresses the majority of women not the exceptions (exp. Widows, single moms, or divorced ones). I do not raise my girls as the exceptions. The reason these are exceptions is because we live in a world full of sin. Sin entered the world through Adam. Things happen, people die, people divorce, we have children out of wedlock in our youth (I did!). There are consequences for our sin. I had to go to work when I was younger in order to provide for my son since I was single after having him out of wedlock at 18. At 19 I came to Christ, yet consequences are not taken away. God knows your heart. If you are one of those moms that HAS to work and your heart breaks as you drop your little ones at day care or school…God knows this! He knows you want to do what He called you to do but just can’t at this moment. He honors a heart that desires to please Him. If you drop your kids off happily to go off to your “own little world” because you simply do not want to raise them yourself, God knows that too. He knows where your heart is. If your heart desires to please Him bit your current circumstances do not allow you to do so, do not be discouraged. He knows that. Our God is a compassionate to those who have a contrite heart. Now, you can’t be going around doing what you want to do, claiming Grace and sprinkling Jesus on top. THAT is not real NT christianity. When He said “Follow Me” was not a call to like Him or believe in Him simply but a call to discipleship. If you truly love Him, you will want to do what he commanded. THAT is the fruit of a genuine christian. If you are not about the father’s business, seeking how to obey and please Him…I suggest you examine yourself to see if you are in the faith. I am a conservative christian much like Michelle Duggar. I raise my kids the complete opposite of this world and I am pleased with the outcome so far. My toddlers are incredible, my 11 year old is thriving in homeschooling and loves the Lord with all his heart. I am not perfect, neither is anyone else…but I love God with all my heart and will strive every single day to do what He called me to do as long as I live. I owe Him everything I am.
Have a blessed day!
Excellent Article on the subject. http://raisinghomemakers.com/2013/22-ways-to-raise-a-home-wrecker/