My husband…one in a million!

When I look at my husband, I see kindness, humility and love. If I had to describe the characteristics of the man I love with all my heart, these are the three I would pick.

He is kindness. I see it in the way he looks at me, touches me and the way he reacts to and interacts with me. I also have the privilege of seeing it in the way he interacts with other people. With few words, he can reach deep inside someone and pull out a smile and a little bit of joy. He has a way of making you feel safe. With just the tone of his voice, he can lift someone’s dreary heart and make them feel lighter. In the way he addresses people is an unspoken respect for who they are and where they are in life.

He is humility. I see it in the way he is slow to speak and slow to anger. He likes to listen and gather all the facts before speaking or forming an opinion. He also has this incredible ability to see straight through to someone’s heart—and the unspoken message or intentions there. His love and respect for people allows him the ability to address the real issue of a matter in an encouraging and uplifting way.

He loves. All of the other attributes are summed up in this one. Love. He chooses to love others and it emanates from him in everything he does and says. This foundation allows him to be who he is and to treat people as brothers and sisters. Ideal? I did not believe this sort of godly man existed and if someone told me he did I’d say, “you just got lucky and it will eventually come to an end.” Then i met him!!! No one is perfect. But when a man or woman has a relationship with God the Father, all of His perfect attributes are reflected in that person’s life.

If you want to find a godly spouse, you have to first know what a godly spouse looks like. And how would you do that? By understanding where godliness comes from. Everything a godly man or woman does is a reflection of God himself. If you know the Father then you will know godliness when you see it. Take time to get to know Him.

Be in the center of God’s will. If you are unsure whether you are in the center of His will, ask Him and listen to what He has to say. But be prepared because if you are not in his will, He will tell you to give up whatever it is that is keeping you from it. If you are looking for a godly spouse, align yourself with the Lord’s will by fully submitting to Him.

There are different beliefs on whether or not there is one right person for everyone. I don’t know whether there is a right person for everyone or not, but for me, I know that there couldn’t be anyone else in the world other than my husband. I believe that by applying biblical principals to a relationship, makes it work. Not only just work but thrive. I believe that with God there are no errors. When you are in the center of God’s will he will show you the good and perfect plans he has for you.” These are “plans to prosper you and not to harm you” (Jeremiah 29:11).

Trust the Holy Spirit. If there is something “just not quite right,” the best thing you can do is let it go until you know more clearly from the Lord. He is so faithful. So much more faithful than us flawed humans give him credit for. All He’s asking is that we stand at his door and knock. And keep knocking, keep asking (Matthew 6:33). If you are trusting the Holy Spirit, you will find contentment with where you are and where you future spouse is as you wait. There is a good and perfect timing for everything. God’s timing. Listen to the Holy Spirit.

Having a husband who reflects the character, acceptance and love of Jesus blesses me beyond anything I could ever imagine. He encourages me and fosters a desire in me to be a better, godlier wife and mom every single day. Out of his relationship with the Savior, flows everything we need to build a strong, godly marriage and family. If you align yourself with these guidelines you too will be in the right track to finding a godly spouse who will love you in the best way possible—with a pure and perfect love, just like Jesus’. <3 You first need to BE the spouse you are looking for!

I wouldn't be the woman I am today if it wasn't for my precious husband. He loves me unconditionally, sacrificially and relentlessly.